FLAW IN THE SOCIETY: INSECURITIES

BY : NASRUL NAIM HASSAN BIN MOHD HABIBULLAH HASSAN, SAKINAH ATIQAH BINTI HAZNOL & ABDUL SYAHIER ABDUL WAHAB

Low self-esteem or more likely known as insecurities has been a critical problem that has been lingering amongst the society. The urge of constantly wanting to know if you're good enough or better than anyone else has marked its mark in the brain of every mind in this 21st century. Even the big leagues face this problem. This is due to the thought of wanting to please others all the time. Insecurity is the trouble nearly every living individual is experiencing today in this well modernized world about all the things they hate about themselves and feel judged about.

 We thought a lot about writing this post on insecurity. This perhaps says a lot about the insecurity we have about ourselves, but that is exactly what we wanted to address today.

Speaking from self experiences we, ourselves constantly compare one's self to most of the people around us. It is not field-specific comparison. It could be about almost anything, really. Its as if, we wake up every morning to people  who seems to be much more sorted out, healthier, prettier, happier and financially secured than we are. Everybody seems to know what drives them around day by day and it gives us a sense of paranoia because as someone who's at the end of our teenage years, not just do we not know what are we going to go through tomorrow ,we cant even decide on how to get through the trouble and mess we're facing today.

But here's a piece of advice, when everything around you seems bleak, sick and empty, the antidote is forgiveness and to love yourself, and others, plus a dollop of gratitude. Give credit to yourself everyday.Tell yourself, its okay to not be as successful as others. Probably today is not your day, but there's always tomorrow to try again. Don't limit your capability. Explore all of your opportunities and challenge yourself everyday so that you'll go stronger day by day. 

Here’s a short story originally written by us about a girl who faced a serious dose of insecurity.

A teen suffered from a serious case of insecurity. She saw everyone around her, better than her. She didn’t love herself. She thought to herself, "If I'm not able to love myself, then how do i expect others to love me". She was really conscious of how much she weighed. Every morning, she wakes up, and looks at her reflection in the mirror, and she tells herself "You look disgusting! Aren't you ashamed of yourself?" Then, she walks down to kitchen for breakfast. She spontaneously fakes a smile for her parents and swallow down her breakfast. She looks down at her plate and saw, a plate of fat all over it. She placed her plates in the sink and walk straight up back to her room, she rushed for the toilet and she purged out the eggs her mum made for her and the milk her father poured for her. She felt a tincture of satisfaction running through her veins. She then wiped out the excess liquid that was dripping across her jaw line. She walked to the mirror again, and she smiled. She told herself “Hold on dear self. This is just the beginning”.

Then, months  passed by, she weighed 28 kilos. She was without doubt too underweight. Her bones were apparent. She brushed her fingers across her ribcage. She loved what she saw. She saw a girl, that was far more skinnier than any girl in that neighbourhood itself. She liked this. She loved how people would come up to her and tell her that she’s skinny.

A piece of advice, its not about how you look. Or what you wear brings out the best of you. Its what in the inside that really matters. It’s how you love yourself and you choose to be confident in your own skin that matters most. Forget the ones who try so hard, trying to bring you down and making you feel less of yourself. Be strong, be you.