FLAW IN THE SOCIETY : JUDGEMENTAL

BY: NASRUL NAIM HASSAN BIN MOHD HABIBULLAH HASSAN ,SAKINAH ATIQAH BINTI HAZNOL & ABDUL SYAHIER ABDUL WAHAB OF T15

As quoted by a young child named Vincent from California, “the nicest people I’ve ever met were covered in tattoos and the most judgemental people I’ve met are the ones who go to church every Sunday”.

As written in the Reader’s Digest,

A young boy walked into a church for support group to seek help for his severe episode of depression. The priest stood up as a formality and asked the boy, “Young lad, what are your interests?”

And then the boy replied, “I like metal music.” Sadly, all they heard was “Sometimes at midnight, Satan my dark Lord and I go to his basement and have jam sessions which then turn into orgies with Hitler and Mussolini".

Its funny how people in this 21-st century have strong opinions on things they know nothing about. Its also funny on how they consume most of their precious time looking for flaws inside a person or in the system itself. Judging is a way of making one’s self feel better by hurting others. Usually caused by closed mindedness and lack in manner. Being judgemental will show people how tactless you truly are.

It’s sad that technology has developed a kind of people who judge others for their flaws. They point out the worst out of others. They stand out by making themselves look better than others well in reality they are actually equals.

Why do we judge others? Well here are a few reasons :

1. You know you would never tolerate the same behavior or characteristic in within yourself.

For instance, you might be a shy and timid kind of person.Then one day, you encounter a very gregarious person. Your judgment might sound something like this: What a show-off! Why the heck are they so loud and obnoxious. Only because you would be embarrassed and humiliated to act this way, you resent somebody else doing it. All and all, you wouldn't be okay if someone acted in a manner that you dislike. So you instantly judge the particular person and refuse to accept him/her as they truly are.

This type of judgment might reveal that in reality you are not fully expressing yourself, hence you feel resentful or pissed of by others doing so, even if they do it clumsily. You nurture the word hate in your mind. Which clearly means you are a person of perception and not so much a person that prefers knowing that a particular individual before-hand. 

Becoming aware of the truth and accepting the flaw as it is of this reaction and working on expressing yourself more fully and authentically would result in a valuable gift of freer self-expression which would definitely result to a more positive and healthier lifestyle.

2. You display the same act but even so you still aren’t aware of this, so you project your disowned act onto others and dislike it “being portrayed publicly “

Everyone has encountered the second cause at one point of their sad and pathetic life. Someone is nagging about a friend or acquaintance and you think to yourself, “That’s funny, you're actually doing the same thing that you, yourself find it wrong”

Taking an honest look and spent some time concentrating on the matter within is purposely to see if you share or posses some of the characteristics you dislike in others. You may be surprise to learn that you do and others might dislike that flaw in yourself, and it is likely to offer insight into gaining greater self-acceptance, sympathy and care for others.

So all you need to do is evaluate the situation and try imagining yourself being in the shoes of others. Only then you’ll realize that criticizing and pointing out someone’s flaw proves that brings out the worst out of people, and doing so shows you posses a bad bone along your spine.